An Open Letter to All Men: What Are You Doing on Social Media?
Hey guys. It's me, Scruggs, and I have a few questions for you.
I've been in the dating scene for a long time now, and after a pretty brief relationship at the beginning of the year, I was excited to get back into the 'babe pool', as it were. So I did. And here I am. I just have one question for you...
What are you doing???
I'm not talking about your posting habits. I'm not even talking about the way you're always uploading weird mirror selfies of you flexing your arms or Instagram stories of you playing the guitar (we get it, guys. You play the guitar. Can I have someone try to serenade me with a saxophone just to get some diversity up in here?).
I'm talking about liking, commenting, and watching my stuff.
What. Are. You. Doing? I know I'm not the only girl wondering this, so maybe this can serve as a public service announcement to all women, everywhere. I have a few questions I'd like your answers to, and then we can move on with our lives.
Every guy I've been interested in in the past year has 'flirted' with me digitally: maybe they've sent me private messages, commented on one of my selfies, or otherwise. Then, though, instead of making something happen, you like my 'thirst' posts (yeah, that's a thing, Google it), you watch all of my stories, and then I never hear from you again.
So, #1: what does it mean?
If it means nothing, I have to know. If you're just curious as to what a young, single girl is up to in the world, that's fine. If it means you're interested in me and you want me to make a move, I can do that, too. Just....TELL ME.
#2: When does it mean something?
Let's face it: social media has made dating a lot harder than it used to be. Before you even meet someone in person, you know everything about them-- their likes and dislikes, their political affiliation, how many brothers they have (and if they're slightly hotter than the guy you're going on a date with, which is a disaster situation, let me tell you). It's a mixed bag of digital craziness before you even decide on a dude in the first place, so it's not a surprise that navigating those digital waters after you find someone you really like is almost worse.
Because of how confusing our feeds have made everything, when does anything mean something? Or does everything mean nothing?
Look-- I'm not here to make judgments. I'm just a girl out here in the digital dating space, wanting a little clarity from the men of this millennium. Feel free to send your responses via snail mail, email, or just in the comments section-- they will be appreciated.
With love and confusion,